Now Try This! If you feel stuck in some area of your life, it's because contradictory beliefs are competing for control of your behavior. The problem is that we're not always aware there is a private struggle going on. One way to figure out if you're in the middle of an inner conflict is to write down a basic belief that's driving behavior you want to change. After writing down the belief, write the polar opposite of that statement ("I don't have to keep every commitment").
Are there circumstances in which those opposing statements ring true?
Reference: Martha Beck 2013