Friday, June 27, 2014

Recipe for today: Easy & Healthy Shrimp

Easy & Healthy Shrimp....No Butter (uses chicken broth, white wine, lemon juice)
4 tsp olive oil
1 1/4 pounds med raw shrimp, peeled and deveined (tails left on)
6-8 garlic cloves, minced
1/2 cup low sodium chicken broth
1/2 cup dry white wine
1/4 cup fresh lemon juice
1/4 cup + 1 T minced parsley
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 tsp freshly ground pepper
4 lemon wedges
In a large nonstick skillet, heat the oil. Saute the shrimp until just pink, about 2-3 minutes. Add the garlic and cook stirring constantly, about 30 seconds. With a slotted spoon transfer the shrimp to a platter and keep them warm.
In the skillet, combine the broth, wine, lemon juice, 1/4 cup of the parsley, the salt and pepper; and bring it to a boil. Boil uncovered, until the sauce is reduced by half.
Spoon the sauce over the shrimp. Serve garnished with the lemon wedges and sprinkled with the remaining tablespoon of parsley. Enjoy!

Monday, June 23, 2014

Recipe for today: Creamy Avo Fudgesicles


  • 2 small avocados
  • 1 c coconut milk
  • 1/3 c raw unfiltered honey
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1/3 c unsweetened cocoa powder
Halve avocados lengthwise and remove seed.
Scoop flesh into a food processor.
Add remaining ingredients and puree until smooth and creamy.
Transfer mixture to a silicone, stainless steel or BPA-free popsicle tray and insert sticks.
Freeze for 2 hours or overnight.
Unmold and serve.

Nutritional info
189 calories per servings
3 g protein
14 g fat
8 g sat fat
19 g carbs
4 g fiber 
9 mg sodium

Reference: Lisa Turner

10 things mid-lifers need to do to find happiness

10 things mid-lifers need to do to find happiness

1. Rethink winning
In early adulthood, being competitive served you well. It got you the grades, job or business, husband or wife. Competing and winning was a critical to establishing yourself in the world.

While doing your best will always be important, it may be time to let go of the attitude that says you must be better than others or win at all costs.

At this point, if you’ve competed and won a place in the adult world, you can afford to rethink winning because you’ve already won. And you paid a price in stress for that win. Isn’t it time to let go of all the pressure?

Instead of winning, think contribute. You are here to make a valuable contribution – not necessarily to beat other people.

Compare these statements:

I will make my best contribution and allow others to do the same.
I will do better than everyone else and win the day!

Neither attitude is wrong. But one is more appropriate for a younger adult who has something to prove. At this point you deserve the peace of mind that comes with knowing that you have a unique contribution to make – and that’s all you need to do.

Make that contribution and stop worrying about crushing other people with your brilliance. It will bring you a lot less pressure and more satisfaction as you move forward.

2. Stop the comparisons
Obsessively comparing yourself to other people is a common habit of 20-somethings that are worried about their place in the world. It’s probably unavoidable.

When you’re young, you lack experience. You’re learning who you are and worried about measuring up. You need to look around a lot and compare yourself to others.

Of course, this causes a fair share of anxiety. Again, probably unavoidable. You just need to press on, prove to yourself that you have what it takes and learn to manage your fears.

At mid-life – if you’ve paid your dues – you’ve actually proven a lot. And now it’s time to let go of the fear of measuring up. Focus on your unique gifts and talents and allow others the luxury of theirs, without worrying about whose talents are better. Without needing to prove anything.

Focus on enjoying yourself and doing something that you find meaningful.

Check out what Nancy Anderson of BoomerCafe has to say:

After reading hundreds of boomers’ autobiographies over the past three decades, I’ve concluded that life is a story that needs to be rewritten in midlife to reflect the desires of the authentic self. This means, the personality that emerges in our early forties, when material goals are not as important as finding answers to questions of ultimate concern: who am I, why am I here, and what should I do with the rest of my life? By contrast, when we are younger, we need to go for the personal gold, experiment with many options, try on different personas, and compete with peers for status and recognition. (emphasis added)

3. Go for self-expression, not approval
Of course, youngsters don’t like to admit it (I never did) but they crave recognition and approval. Not having the life experience and personal depth that is possible 20 years later, young adults tend to look outside themselves to know that they are OK.

It’s time to turn the tables on this one. If you’re at midlife or beyond, then there is no one better to approve of you than YOU.

Focus on becoming aware of your thoughts, opinions and feelings. Express them maturely. And let the chips fall where they may. This is when the magic happens.

Here’s why. When expressing yourself takes priority over pleasing others, the universe hands you a remarkable gift.

Some people will approve. Some will disapprove. Some will love you. Some will ignore or dislike you. You want all of this because it is the only real way to find people with whom you can just be yourself and not worry about approval.

And this is the gift – being yourself in the company of people who can handle it. This is the gateway into genuine, authentic relationships.

The alternative is to continue moderating your thoughts and feelings, bent on positioning yourself in just the right way so that other people will like you (or so you suppose). The problem is, who are they liking? They are only getting the faรงade version of you, so it is impossible to embrace any approval you may get.

4. Discover your values
The key to being fulfilled and effective at any stage in life is to know and live your personal values. This is particularly important at midlife because this is when you are most capable of truly embracing your values.

What’s most important to you in life? The deep answer to this question reveals your values. And you can’t really value everything that sounds good and back it with action. You’re just one person, after all.

So what makes it to your list of core values? Health, prosperity, freedom, security, peace of mind, friendship, clarity, balance…what?

Knowing your bottom line values should be the basis of your major decisions. Otherwise, you will drift in the wind of popular opinion and somehow miss out on the fulfillment that comes with knowing and doing what is right for you.

The key to discovering your values is to get beyond what you think they should be and discover what they are, deep down. For most people, this requires more than merely taking out a piece of paper and writing down the words that come to your conscious mind.

You’ve got to go deep on this one.

I do a simple process with my clients that removes them from their surface desires and present circumstance and penetrates into their deeper longings in life. In this unusual context, I learn and record what their unconscious mind finds to be most meaningful.

Sorry, I can’t describe it here (but it is not hypnosis) because if you know how and why the process works ahead of time, your conscious mind will interfere if anyone ever does it with you. This process is a one-time shot that really nails your values in surprising ways.

The best way to learn it is to have me do it with you! This is not a shameless plug. It’s a genuine offer to help you learn your core values. The knowledge you obtain will serve you through thick and thin for years to come.

5. Curb the materialism
In our youth, getting stuff may have served as a way to boost our status and tickle our ego. Good for us! We sought for evidence of our worthiness in external things and hopefully allowed that to run its course.

Long-term materialism is NOT a good strategy for happiness. Research supports this one.

In fact, materialism, for many, may be an unconscious self-deprivation scheme. It always amazes me that so often people (including me) obsessively seek after things that don’t offer lasting fulfillment.

We go for the car, house, clothing, accessories, gadgets and toys that titillate us momentarily, then….that’s it. When we put our eggs in the temporary titillation basket, we end up feeling empty.

“Stuff” is to be appreciated for what it is and enjoyed, right? Yet, when you invest in stuff as your primary means of happiness, it will fail you miserably.

6. Honor authority
Is it time to give up resisting authority? If you’re approaching mid-life or beyond, then the right answer is an unqualified YES.

If you have a legitimate authority in your life, then you’ve agreed to that. You have a job or a role that requires someone to make higher level approvals and give direction. Ok, great. What’s the problem?

There are several benefits to simply allowing those in authoritative roles to just do their job:

• You get to relax and just play your role
• You can focus on simply doing your best
• You earn the trust of those with more power in any organization
• The clarity of knowing your role takes pressure off
• You can take full responsibility for yourself

Isn’t it time to let go of the struggle to prove you are better, smarter and more capable of those with more authority than you?

Interestingly, when you give up this chase, your natural talents can speak for themselves and THIS is the key to rising in authority.

7. Embrace your limitations
Who wants to hear about limitations? Not many people. Limitations, however are the key to personal freedom.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

At midlife, you are in a position to free yourself from the illusion that you are all the all-powerful genie that you once fantasized that you were.

The reason to embrace your limitations is a stunning paradox: When you embrace limitations, you set yourself free.

When I was a young mental health counselor with a lot to prove, I liked to think I could handle anything sent my way. No matter the complication, I could handle it. Drug addiction? Bring it on. Multiple personalities? I’m your guy. I did it all.

At age 24, I worked with retirees who were looking for more meaning and to leave their legacy. I worked with people who were struggling with midlife crises. I worked with couples who were considering divorce after 20+ years of marriage.

After about five years, I learned the most valuable lesson in my career. It was this: I’m really effective with certain kinds of people. And there are some cases I am not skilled or experienced enough to handle.

I slowly accepted that I was not the right guy for many kinds of cases. As I began to refer on people that I believed I could not serve adequately, my practice soared because I made room only for people I could be successful with.

And I felt freer and more comfortable than ever. There is such a feeling of emotional safety that comes with knowing your limitations. Now, over 20 years later, my circle of effectiveness has expanded. Yet, I still stick to the core principle of only coaching people that I know I can help.

Of course, there is always a balance between accepting limitations and continuing to grow. Now may be the time to learn with great clarity where the line is for you.

8. Draw the line
Speaking of drawing lines, now may also be the time for you to draw clearer boundaries around what is acceptable to you.

You can do this by appreciating the enormous value of one simple word.

No, I can’t go to the party.
No, I am not in agreement.
No, you can’t borrow my car.
No, I won’t lend you money.
No, I didn’t like that movie.
No, I won’t clean your room for you.
No, no, no.

If you think about all the things you could agree with, commit to and unwittingly endorse, the list is endless. When you know who you are and what’s important, saying no is essential to maintaining your integrity and rightful commitments.

Will people be offended when you turn them down or take a different stand? Some of that depends on how maturely you deliver your message. Much of it depends on the person receiving the message. No tends to sort out your friends and supporters from the rest, and this simplifies your life immensely.

9. See your parents as people
No discussion about self-actualization is complete without dealing with your perspective on your parents. In your youth, you may have rebelled and seen them as negligent, or oppressive and controlling.

Maybe they were.
Now, if you’ve been doing your emotional work with your parents, it is time to begin to see them in a much easier way. As people. They are merely people with their own strengths and weaknesses and struggles. Just like you.
One little thing you can do to put this in perspective is to take out a piece of paper and write down two numbers.
First, write your current age.
Next, write down the age of your mother when you were born.

For me, it looks like this…
48 (my current age)
20 (my mother’s age when I was born).

When you stare at those numbers, what happens? What thoughts and feelings come to mind? I won’t elaborate because I don’t want to spoil it for you. Just do it.

Oh, and really think about how much you’ve turned out like the parent that you had the most resentment toward.

10. Bottom line: Look within for the answers you are seeking
At the end of the day, the answers you seek are to be found within the boundaries of your own skin. Gone are the days of looking for outside assurance and status symbols. Every thought leader throughout history has validated this principle.

The kingdom of heaven is within you.

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
-Marcus Aurelius

Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul.
-Saint Augustine

Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.

Education comes from within; you get it by struggle and effort and thought.
-Napoleon Hill

Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.
-Mahatma Gandh

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Recipe for today: Simple chicken sausage skillet.

Chicken sausage (Substitute with tofu for you vegans or vegetarians),  Onions peppers mushrooms sautรฉed in Tuscan Olive oil. Also add Italian seasoning, garlic of course and a sprinkle of fresh Parmesan cheese!
Photo credits: Daun Musch

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Recipe for today: Strawberry Cheesecake Lush

  • 1 package Golden Oreos (36 cookies)
  • 6 tablespoons butter, melted
  • 8 ounces softened cream cheese
  • 1 cup powdered sugar
  • 1 (12-ounce) container Cool Whip, divided
  • 2 packages (1.4 ounce each) instant cheesecake pudding mix
  • 3 cups milk
  • 3 1/2 cups sliced strawberries

  1. Crush the entire package of Oreos. A food processor would work great for this - I don't have one, so I just placed my cookies in a gallon sized Ziplock bag and crushed them with a rolling pin. When the cookies are fine crumbs, transfer them to a large bowl and mix in 6 tablespoons of melted butter. Press the cookie mixture into a 9x13 pan and refrigerate while you prepare the remaining layers.
  2. Next, beat together 1 cup of powdered sugar, the cream cheese, and 1 cup of Cool Whip. Spread over your cookie layer.
  3. For the next layer, mix together the pudding mix, milk, and another 1 cup of Cool Whip. Spread over the cream cheese layer.
  4. Layer the sliced strawberries on top, and spread the remaining Cool Whip on top.
  5. Keep refrigerated until ready to serve.

Recipe for Today: My Modified Lasagna

- Lasagna noodles
- fresh mushrooms
- italian sausage
- spinach (sometimes add this not always)
- chopped onion
- 2 cloves garlic
- 26 oz chopped tomatoes
- 12 oz tomato paste
- 12 oz tomato sauce
- fresh oregano (2 1/4 c)
- fresh basil (2 1/4 c)
- cottage cheese
- 3 cups (12 oz) mozzarella cheese
- 2 eggs
- 1/2 c fresh parmesan cheese
- sliced black olives
- sliced green olives

Cook pasta according to pkg directions.
Preheat oven 350 F
In large sauce pan, cook sausage until brown.  Add sliced mushrooms, onion and garlic until tender.  Stir in chopped tomato sauce, paste and sauce, 1/4 c basil and 1/4 c oregano.  Simmer 15 minutes.
In separate bowl, place cottage cheese, 2 c mozzarella, eggs and 1/4 c basil and 1/4 c oregano, mix well.
Spread 1/2 c sauce on bottom of greased 13 x 9 baking dish (I use a cake dish with 2-3" sides).
Top with lasagna noodles.
Add cottage cheese mixture layer.
Add layer of 1 c sauce.
Add 1/4 c parmesan cheese layer.
Add 1/4 c mozzarella cheese layer.
*Repeat layering until it fills the dish.
The top will be remaining sauce and 1 c mozzarella cheese layer.

Bake 45-50 minutes or until hot and bubbly.
Uncover and let stand 15 minutes.
Garnish as desired.
Refrigerate leftovers.

Makes 6-8 servings.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Recipe for Today: HO HO CAKE

Servings: 12
Units: US | Metric

1 (18 1/4 ounce) box chocolate cake mix
3 eggs (or as called for by your cake mix)
1/3 cup oil (or as called for by your cake mix)
1 1/3 cups water (or as called for by your cake mix)
1 (16 ounce) can dark chocolate icing
1/2 cup sugar
2/3 cup shortening
1 teaspoon vanilla
1/3 cup milk
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon water
1 cup powdered sugar

Prepare cake as directed on package for two round pans.
When cool, "slice" through cakes to make 4 "thin" cakes.
Beat sugar, shortening, vanilla, milk, salt and water for 7 minutes.
Add powdered sugar and beat for 5 minutes longer.
Lay one layer of cake on plate.
Spread Cream filling on top only, do not go all the way to the edge.
Lay another layer of cake on this.
Spread cream filling on this too.
Again layer and filling until you have all four layers on here.
Ice the whole cake with the chocolate icing.

~Reference Food dot com

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Recipe for Today: LOVE FRIED RICE


  • 3 cups cooked white rice
  • 3 tbs sesame oil
  • 1 cup frozen peas and carrots (thawed)
  • 1 small onion, chopped
  • 1tsp minced garlic
  • 2 eggs, slightly beaten
  • 1/4 cup soy sauce

On medium high heat, heat the oil in a large skillet or wok. Add the peas carrots mix, onion and garlic. Stir fry until tender. Lower the heat to medium low and push the mixture off to one side, then pour your eggs on the other side of skillet and stir fry until scrambled. Now add the rice and soy sauce and blend all together well. Stir fry until thoroughly heated. Try adding some green onion.

Recipe for Today: Worlds Best Lasagna

Original recipe makes 12 servings
  • 1 pound sweet Italian sausage
  • 3/4 pound lean ground beef
  • 1/2 cup minced onion
  • 2 cloves garlic, crushed
  • 1 (28 ounce) can crushed tomatoes
  • 2 (6 ounce) cans tomato paste
  • 2 (6.5 ounce) cans canned tomato sauce
  • 1/2 cup water
  • 2 tablespoons white sugar
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons dried basil leaves
  • 1/2 teaspoon fennel seeds
  • 1 teaspoon Italian seasoning
  • 1 tablespoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 4 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley
  • 12 lasagna noodles
  • 16 ounces ricotta cheese
  • 1 egg
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 3/4 pound mozzarella cheese, sliced
  • 3/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese
  • In a Dutch oven, cook sausage, ground beef, onion, and garlic over medium heat until well browned. Stir in crushed tomatoes, tomato paste, tomato sauce, and water. Season with sugar, basil, fennel seeds, Italian seasoning, 1 tablespoon salt, pepper, and 2 tablespoons parsley. Simmer, covered, for about 1 1/2 hours, stirring occasionally.
  • Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Cook lasagna noodles in boiling water for 8 to 10 minutes. Drain noodles, and rinse with cold water. In a mixing bowl, combine ricotta cheese with egg, remaining parsley, and 1/2 teaspoon salt.
  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).
  • To assemble, spread 1 1/2 cups of meat sauce in the bottom of a 9x13 inch baking dish. Arrange 6 noodles lengthwise over meat sauce. Spread with one half of the ricotta cheese mixture. Top with a third of mozzarella cheese slices. Spoon 1 1/2 cups meat sauce over mozzarella, and sprinkle with 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese. Repeat layers, and top with remaining mozzarella and Parmesan cheese. Cover with foil: to prevent sticking, either spray foil with cooking spray, or make sure the foil does not touch the cheese.
  • Bake in preheated oven for 25 minutes. Remove foil, and bake an additional 25 minutes. Cool for 15 minutes before serving.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Personal - Your Aura is Blue...

You are sensitive and intuitive, sometimes sensing big events before they happen. Peaceful situations and settings make you happiest, and you often avoid confrontation just to keep things copacetic. You are a master of taking the high road. People with blue auras tend to be spiritual, calm, and generous.

Life Tip: Best Advice!

If you want to change the world

(Life will not always be easy)

• Make your bed in the morning. (Start a task and complete it)

• Find someone to help you paddle. (Respect everyone)
• Measure the person by the size of their heart not the size of their flippers. (What matters is Your Will to Succeed) 
• Get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward. (Accept that some efforts may be in vain)
• Don't be afraid of the circuses. (Take risks)
• Sometimes you have to slide down the obstacles head first. (Never Give Up)
• Don't back down from the sharks. (Stand your ground)
• You must be your very best in the darkest moments. (Be Calm & Composed)
• Start singing when you are up to your neck in mud. (Give Hope)
• Don't ever, ever, ring the bell. (Don't QUIT)

Sunday, June 8, 2014



Fantastic for ANY meal!!

(Share so ya don't lose it)

1 Can Flaky Grands
Bag shredded cheddar 8 oz.
Half cup milk
Cubed ham or ground cooked sausage 1 cup cooked
5 eggs
Salt and pepper
Add all ingredients and mix saving biscuits for last.

Cut biscuits into fours and carefully mix in.
Transfer to roomy casserole dish that has been oiled. Cook 25 at 350. You can't mess this up and it comes out looking JUST like picture. Serve for breakfast or dinner w small salad.

Saturday, June 7, 2014

Steps for SELF CARE!

If it feels wrong don't do it.
Say exactly what you mean.
Don't be a people pleaser.
Trust your instincts.
Never speak bad about yourself.
Never give up on your dreams.
Don't be afraid to say "No".
Don't be afraid to say "Yes".
Be KIND to yourself.
Let go of what you can't conrol.
Stay away from drama and negativity.

Recipe for Today; Asparagus & Mushroom Rice with Black Pepper

  • 1 c Asparagus
  • 1 c Basmati Rice
  • 1/4 tsp Black Pepper
  • 1 c Mushrooms
  • 1/4 tsp Salt (Mineral Salt)
  • 1 tbsp Sunflower Oil
  • 1 1/2 c Water

1. Place water in a medium pot on high heat. 

2. While water is heating to a boil, lightly oil a frying pan and sautee mushrooms one inch apart until browned. Add rice to the frying pan and stir to soak up oil in the pan. Add rice, mushroom, salt and black pepper to the boiling water. Bring to a boil then cover and lower heat to a simmer. 

3. Meanwhile chop asparagus in 1/2 to inch long lengths. Place remaining oil in a large pot and sautee asparagus until it turns a bright green. 

4. Gently mix asparagus into rice after rice has been cooking at least 7 minutes. If you add asparagus too early, it will turn mushy. If you add asparagus too late, you will crush the grains of rice, leading to an oddly-textured meal. 

5. Continue cooking, covered, until rice is soft. Serve and & enjoy!

Health Tip: Ayurvedic Tips for Summer

Try Ayurvedic Sunbathing

Take a 10-to-15-minute walk at sunrise, when the gentle rays that fall on your face and skin will stimulate sadhaka pitta
Take a 10-to-15-minute walk at sunrise, when the gentle rays that fall on your face and skin will stimulate sadhaka pitta—an energetic principle that, according to ayurveda, is a mood lifter similar to serotonin and melatonin and promotes creativity and joy. Sunlight also helps stimulate the body’s production of vitamin D—a fat-soluble vitamin that plays an important role in calcium absorption, which in turn leads to stronger bones.

Stay Hydrated

Summer’s intense heat saps moisture from plants, the earth, and our bodies. That’s why it’s okay to add an extra pinch of salt in your food in the summer to compensate for sweating and to prevent fatigue. Also, drink at least six 8-ounce cups of water per day.

Eat Cooling Foods

Some of the best pitta-pacifying foods are leafy greens, coconut, cucumber, cantaloupe, and watermelon. The best dairy products are yogurt, milk, and ghee (clarified butter). Garnish salads and other dishes with cooling cilantro, parsley, and alfalfa sprouts, and avoid hot drinks, spicy food, alcohol, caffeine, and chilies.

Moisturize Daily

After showering, mix one teaspoon each of organic, unrefined coconut oil and castor oil in a glass bottle with a cap. Place the bottle in hot water until the oil is lukewarm (not hot!). Apply to your whole body to keep your skin supple, soft, and cool. You can also use this treatment before you swim to protect your skin from salt water or chlorine.

Try Aromatherapy

Dab one drop of sandalwood essential oil on your temples, eyebrow center, throat center (at the hollow of the throat), wrists, and belly button. According to subtle ayurvedic principles, your whole aura will be charged with a sweet fragrance that pacifies pitta.

Adjust Your Bedtime Routine

You can go to bed a little later on summer nights, around 11 p.m. when some of the sun’s heat has dissipated. Sleep on your right side to open your left nostril, which corresponds to the ida nadi, the subtle energy channel that corresponds to the cooling moon.

Natural Solutions for Summer Bummers


Rub preservative-free aloe gel on your skin. Or juice a few ounces of fresh cilantro and drink two teaspoons three times a day. Apply the cilantro pulp to your sunburn; it’s cooling and soothing.

Jet Lag

Mix together one part each of cumin powder and dried mint, and one-fourth part ginger- root powder. Fill 00-size vegetable capsules with the mixture and take one or two of them an hour before your flight.

Skeeter Bites

Apply equal parts tea tree oil and neem oil (available online) to itchy bug bites. You can also use neem oil as a natural bug repellant.

A Soothing Summer Meditation

For thousands of years, yogis have begun their day with spiritual practices that honor the sun: surya namaskara (sun salutations); surya trataka (a master practice that involves gazing at the sun); and a walk at sunrise to absorb the early morning rays. The sun is the source of all life. That’s why summer is the perfect time to recite the Gayatri mantra, the Vedic song of sunlight, during meditation.
Written by:  Vasant Lad Vasant Lad, BAMS, MASc

Biz Tip: Five Lies That Could Be Ruining Your Career (and your Life)

The top five lies I hear from the professionals.  by Theresa Sullivan
Go something like:
1) I haven’t found my passion / I don’t have a passion. Is that true? You cannot think of one thing that you love doing or being? Is there something you do better than most other people you know? If you had a free day all to yourself to do whatever you wanted in the world, could you think of something you might gravitate toward?
Change the story: Instead of "I haven't found my passion", replace with "There are many things I love doing".
2) I can’t afford to leave the job I don’t like. Really? The only way on this earth that you have to earn money is the job you are in right now? Is there nothing you're able to cut out of your current budget that would allow you to be more free? Can your body, your relationships, your long-term career aspirations afford for you to stay in the job you don't like?
Change the story: Instead of "I can't afford to leave the job I don't like", replace with "I can't afford to stay in a job I don't like."
3) It’s too late to change direction now. Is that really true? How many years of life do you think you have left? Now multiply that by 8,765, which is the number of hours in each year. Is that really too little time for you to change direction? Malcolm Gladwell's book, "Outliers", tells us you can be great at what you do with some ability and 10,000 hours of practice. Never put off a goal because it will take too long -- the time will pass anyway. Might as well spend it working toward a goal that makes life fun.
Change the story: Instead of "It's too late...", replace with "If I start today, the journey of 1,000 miles starts with the first step."
4) Pursuing my own happiness is selfish. I have a family to think about.Seriously? There is a reason that the flight attendants tell you in case of a sudden loss of pressure in the cabin to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. How helpful are you to your family and friends when you're gone, depleted, sick, resentful, or angry because you haven't taken care of yourself? (Hint: you aren't) How would your household be different if you were busy pursuing a life that serves you and honors who you are and what you have to give?
Change the story: Instead of "pursuing my dreams is selfish", replace with "showing my children what living a fulfilled life looks like is the best way to enrich theirs."
5) I hate my job now, but I will be happy as soon as I [get the promotion/finish the project/collect my bonus/get my degree]. Are you sure? This one thing is all that is holding you back from happiness and liking your job? How long do you think you'll stop hating your job after you accomplish this magical goal that will make you happy? Happiness experts tell us it's pretty temporary. I like The Dave Matthews Band take on this - "the future is no place to place your better days". Happiness is a choice that you make. It isn't a magical feeling that is bestowed upon us from some outside force.
Change the story: Instead of "I'll be happy when....", replace with "I could be happy now."
We all have our stories. And if you're wondering why your life isn't turning out the way you planned, know that its only a story you tell yourself. It isn't the Truth. Question your narrative about your situation and give yourself permission to believe in something better. It is the quickest and most effective way to change your life.

Friday, June 6, 2014

Recipe for Today: Grilled Pound Cake with Warm Amaretto Bananas

Prepare yields 4 servings

4 tsp. butter, divided
2 large bananas, cut into 1/4 in slices
2 Tbsp. brown sugar
1 Tbsp. amaretto
1 tsp. lemon juice
4 slices pound cake (about 1 in. thick)
Sweetened whipped cream and toasted sliced almonds, optional

1. Melt 2 tsp. butter; drizzle over a double thickness of heavy-duty foil (about 10 in. square).  Place bananas on foil; top with brown sugar, amaretto and lemon juice.  Dot with remaining butter. Fold foil around mixture and seal tightly.

2. Grill, covered, over medium heat for 8-10 minutes or until heated through.  Grill pound cake for 1-2 minutes on each side or until lightly browned.  Open foil packet carefully, allowing steam to escape.  Spoon bananas over pound cake; top with whipped cream and almonds if desired.

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Recipe for Today: Rhubarb Dump Cake...

Rhubarb Dump Cake
More like a crisp than a cake, but it doesn't get much easier or yummier than this!
Rhubarb Dump Cake
1 pound rhubarb, cut into 1/4 inch pieces (between 3 and 4 cups)
1 cup white sugar
1 (3 ounce package) strawberry jell-o
1 package yellow cake mix
1 cup water
1/4 cup butter, melted
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease a 9x13 inch baking dish. Spread the rhubarb evenly in the bottom of the baking dish. Sprinkle the sugar over the rhubarb, followed by the jell-o, and finally the cake mix. Pour the water and melted butter over the top. Do not stir. Bake for 45 minutes or until the rhubarb is tender.

Health Tip: Brush teeth thoroughly...

Brush your teeth thoroughly for 2 to 3 minutes with a toothbrush that has a small head, which will easily reach into the corners of your mouth.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Health Tip: Brush your teeth properly...

To brush your teeth properly, hold a soft bristled brush at a 45-degree angle to your teeth and gums and use gentle back and forth strokes. Hold it vertically to clean the inside surfaces of your front teeth

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Health Tip: Contributing to heart attacks and strokes...

Bacteria from gum disease can enter your bloodstream, which causes your white blood cells to release clotting factors that contribute to both heart attacks and strokes.

Monday, June 2, 2014

Biz Tip: Treat your departing employee better than others

Treat your departing employee better than others…
This looks funny for some people. But the reality is some organizations treat the departing employees as ‘dead stock having shorter shelf life’. The common thought is that ‘he/she is leaving X days from now, why should we support him?’. Always the experience on the ‘last days’ with the organization will last longer than normal working days.
From my management experience I feel we should give good respect and one should be more professionally generous to the employees who are leaving the organization. Why?
1. Employees are the messengers to the world, if they feel good about the organization, they will support the organization in whatever possible way. May be you are recruiting some new heads, now a days social platforms like LinkedIn are there to make good referrals. If your ex-employee is not having a good feeling about your organization because of his ‘last days’ experience, he may not give a good referral; in turn you may lose a good candidate.
2. Your ex-employee may become your principal or may become your senior when you move to the other organization. If you creates an ill feeling when he was leaving the organization, obviously both many not enjoy working together for another organization; both may lose a good chance to work together.
3. After certain period the organization may feel to get the ex-employee back into the organization for whatever reason, the ‘ill feeling’ will not allow both the parties to work together.
Moreover the world is very small…. Why should we keep hard feelings on a colleague who is leaving the organization, we will definitely meet your peers anywhere in the world, may be some of your best future opportunity or employment referrals are lying with your ex-colleague.

Reference - Sam Issac, Chief Advisor at Confidentia